Overcoming Anxiety: How to Stop Feeling Like a Burden
How To Stop Feeling Like A Burden: Is Anxiety Affecting Your Social Interactions?
It is common to experience some degree of anxiety at some point in your life— and few people are completely immune to its effects. A low level of anxiety may even be beneficial in certain situations, such as when your safety or the safety of a loved one is at stake. Anxiety can heighten awareness, sharpen senses and reflexes, and improve performance during a sporting event, concert, or important work function.
However, when you have clinical anxiety, your body’s anxiety response may be activated more frequently and may feel more intense. This level of anxiety can begin to interfere with everyday life and may cause you to feel like you’re a burden to the people around you. While these thoughts are often unfounded and created by an anxious and activated brain, they can be hard to overcome without the right support.
Understanding anxiety
Anxiety is a feeling that can occur when you’re stressed, tense, worried, or afraid. Sometimes, these fears are a response to an immediate threat, while other times, they’re a response to something that could happen in the future—no matter how unlikely. Clinical anxiety doesn’t discriminate, affecting up to 33.7% of the general population at some point in life, and it seems to impact people of all genders.
Individuals living with anxiety may have more sensitive nervous systems. Therefore, they may experience sensory stimuli in their environment at greater magnitudes. A person can experience anxiety in many forms (physical, mental, emotional), and the disorder can bring with it a host of negative emotions.
Overcoming the feeling of being a burden
Social anxiety, a specific type of anxiety, has many different subsets, making it one of the most widespread and under-recognized mental health conditions. This type of anxiety can make you feel as if you burden those around you and can leave you wondering what others think about you. Social anxiety can quickly take control of your thoughts and make you feel irritable and on edge. The anxious brain tends to generate thoughts about worst-case scenarios, and in this case, anxiety can make you habitually question if you’re bothering everyone around you. You may also ruminate over ways to stop being a burden to others.
It can be important to understand that while these thoughts feel very real, mental health conditions like anxiety can make you believe a lot of untrue things about yourself. Although you might feel like you’re a burden and you may be searching for ways to stop, it may be helpful to recognize that many of these thoughts are simply byproducts of a mental health condition. Addressing your anxiety may help you overcome these thoughts and allow you to build up your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Anxiety can be highly treatable with therapy and behavioral interventions. If you feel medication might be necessary, it’s recommended that you consult with your doctor or primary care physician to discuss options or obtain referrals to appropriate specialists.
Challenging the perception that you’re a burden
If you have anxiety, you may be concerned (or you may have even received criticism) that you are becoming a burden to others. It could be that some of your anxious behaviors have made people around you feel uncomfortable or inconvenienced, or this may just be a perception that you have, whether true or not.
However, much of this perceived burden can come from misunderstanding or ignorance about anxiety. It can be important for your friends and family to know that these fears and bodily sensations you are living with are real and not a figment of your imagination. It can also be helpful if they understand that your anxiety is not always easy to control. Awareness about anxiety disorders is considered an important step in providing support to help those living with anxiety.
How anxiety affects social interactions
Individuals experiencing anxiety may have difficulty holding eye contact with others, may feel that others are encroaching on their personal space, may exhibit agitated body language traits (such as fidgeting), and may conclude that these actions are burdening people around them. People with anxiety may even avoid socializing with family members due to their perceived burdensome behavior. If you feel that you will never be able to learn new social skills or stop feeling like a burden, it is important to remember that long-term change may take time.
It may help to remember that people may not actually think you are a burden in most cases. Many of those negative thoughts and fears can be a product of your anxious mind. If you are living with social anxiety, it can feel as if people are paying close attention to you, even judging you as if you’re under a magnifying glass. This is sometimes referred to as a “fishbowl” mentality—that you are somehow on display, and everyone is watching.
However, you ultimately have no way of knowing if they are truly paying attention to you without asking.
Many people may be too concerned with what is going on inside themselves to care a whole lot about what you are doing. Challenging these types of cognitive distortions may help you manage your anxiety.
Effective strategies for managing clinical anxiety symptoms
There are many strategies to control or modify symptoms of clinical anxiety. Relaxation techniques and meditation can be helpful methods that decrease the responses of the sympathetic nervous system. Talk therapies, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can help change how you think about the things that can make you anxious and may help change your responses to anxiety (like avoidance behaviors) so that you can feel less limited and isolated by your symptoms. Exposure therapy may also help you face your fears, calm your body, and gain confidence.
Recognizing anxiety symptoms
Many people who are prone to anxiety may be more likely than others to misattribute their normal physical symptoms to a serious underlying disease. Avoidance behaviors can also be common for many people with tendencies toward anxiety, as they may try to manipulate the external environment to avoid exacerbating their symptoms. Many people stop going to certain places or taking part in certain events, finding their worlds shrinking smaller and smaller in an attempt to avoid anxiety. Since anxiety can be a biological condition as well as an environmental one, it can still occur in isolation.
Physical manifestations of anxiety
Feeling as if your mind has gone blank can be a common symptom of anxiety, especially in the context of public speaking of any kind. Sweating, trembling, tight muscles, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, gastrointestinal problems like nausea or upset stomach, and dizziness or lightheadedness can all be signs of anxiety in the body.
Common anxiety triggers and manifestations
It can be difficult to predict an external cause for anxiety, as the causes can be different for different people.
Doing everyday tasks, especially in front of other people, can cause people with social anxiety great distress. Fear of feeling anxious can inhibit participation in regular activities, like going to work or school, or lead people to stay away from places that cause anxiety symptoms. A common manifestation of this is trouble talking to people on the phone or difficulty finding the right words in conversations with others. Many people experience a fear of public speaking in formal situations, like at work or at a social event.
For others, anxiety about using the bathroom in others’ proximity causes anxiety (paruresis), as does anxiety about eating or drinking in front of others. For some, the threat of feeling anxious and its misattributions may incite anger or irritability or inspire feelings of inferiority. Anxiety can contribute to difficulties with focus and concentration and can cause sleep disturbances, too.
Long-term health impacts of anxiety
The bodily sensations that often accompany anxiety are not necessarily dangerous in themselves. For example, shortness of breath or an accelerated heartbeat is not necessarily an indication of a heart attack. However, people who experience anxiety could be more at risk of long-term negative impacts of stress, such as high blood pressure, heart disease, ulcers, and other digestive concerns. Anxiety also can contribute to other mental health conditions in some people, such as depression. Seeking care can be one of the first steps in moving past these challenges and improving your overall quality of life.
Ultimately, recognizing the impact of anxiety on your mental and physical health is an important step toward healing. With appropriate treatment, such as therapy, medication, and supportive lifestyle changes, many individuals experience significant relief from symptoms and a restored sense of connection with others. Remember, feeling like a burden is often a reflection of the anxiety itself rather than the reality of how others perceive you.
If you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety and its effects on social interactions, seeking professional help can provide valuable tools for managing symptoms and improving relationships. You deserve to live a fulfilling life where anxiety does not define your worth or your ability to connect with others.
Taking the first step toward managing anxiety can be challenging, but it opens the door to greater self-compassion, healthier interactions, and renewed confidence in yourself and your relationships.
