Cultivating Optimism: How to Think More Positively
How To Think Like An Optimist
Optimism has been linked to several health benefits (optimists have even been found to have a longer lifespan). Learn how to cultivate an optimistic mindset for better mental health.
What is optimism? Characteristics of optimists
Most of us perceive our lives and the world around us in specific ways. For example, while some people are detail oriented, others may prefer to focus on the big picture. Another common difference in perception is related to how we view the future.
Optimism refers to a positive outlook on future events. People who believe in the likelihood of beneficial outcomes are considered optimistic. For example, someone who is optimistic might feel confident about their career prospects, despite uncertainty in the job market. Those who feel negatively about the future, however, are considered pessimistic.
What qualities do optimists share?
Optimism is linked to a variety of traits and tendencies, including the following:
- High self-esteem
- Positive view of others
- Gratitude
- Desire to achieve goals
- Resiliency
- Adaptability
Can you become more optimistic?
If you think of yourself as a naturally pessimistic person, you may not believe there is any way you can actually change your mentality to see the world as a more hopeful place. However, several evidence-based strategies have proven effective in cultivating a more optimistic mindset. Let’s explore ways to develop a more positive outlook through telehealth approaches.
Explanatory style and optimism
An “explanatory style,” according to noted positive psychology researcher and “Learned Optimism” author Dr. Martin Seligman, is the way in which a person explains to themselves and others how events in their life are caused, particularly concerning unfavorable events.
Positive explanatory style
With a positive explanatory style (associated with higher levels of optimism), a person tends to believe that adverse or unfortunate events occur due to external factors, typically the situation, other people, or random circumstances. The cause of the negative event is typically seen as specific only to that event, meaning subsequent negative events are unlikely to happen in other areas of a person’s life.
Negative explanatory style
In contrast, a negative or pessimistic explanatory style can lead a person to believe that undesirable events are caused by some inherent, unchangeable bad quality within themselves that they cannot change. According to this mindset, these negative personality traits will lead to unfortunate events in multiple areas of one’s life. Unsurprisingly, a pessimistic explanatory style is associated with higher levels of negative thinking and negative emotions. People who default to this explanatory style might often be hard on themselves.
How to think like an optimist: Shift your explanatory style
There are ways to minimize negative self-talk patterns associated with a pessimistic explanatory style. Making a conscious effort to reframe how you think about your circumstances can help train your brain to default to a more optimistic outlook.
Recognizing and reframing negative thought patterns
When something upsetting happens — like missing an important video call — identify the negative thoughts about yourself that follow the event as they come up. If you think, “No wonder I missed the call; I’m always disorganized because I’m so scattered! I’ll probably miss tomorrow’s meeting too!” recognize that this is an example of a negative explanation that focuses on a bad quality in you, not on the situation itself.
Try to use positive thinking to reframe the situation more optimistically: “No wonder I missed the call — my internet connection was unstable this morning due to the storm. That’s unlikely to be a problem tomorrow.” With practice, your brain can learn to default to the positive explanatory style, focusing less on yourself and more on external factors, which cultivates a more positive outlook.
Start (or change up) a journaling practice
Journaling about personal and professional successes and things you are proud of can help build your self-esteem. High self-esteem is a protective factor against various prevalent mental conditions, and it can help you learn to think like an optimist. It becomes easier to assume positive outcomes when you believe in yourself.
Fostering optimism by practicing gratitude
A gratitude journal is one form of journaling associated with increased optimism levels. Gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness and appreciation for anything in your life that you find meaningful in a positive or constructive way. You can feel grateful for significant aspects of your daily life (perhaps a career that brings you a sense of purpose) or smaller things (perhaps a moment of connection during a therapy session).
To start a gratitude journal, take time every day to sit down for a few minutes and record one or two things that happened that day that you are grateful for. It is best to do this at the same time each day to establish a habit – many people enjoy gratitude journaling right before bed, so they go to sleep with a thankful heart. Knowing that you will be writing down what you are grateful for can motivate you to pay more attention to moments in your daily life that inspire gratitude, which may help to build a more optimistic mindset.
Expressing yourself can help you learn how to think like an optimist
You can also use journaling in other ways to practice optimism. Sometimes, journaling is thought of as a way to “vent” negative feelings. While this practice can certainly be beneficial, don’t forget that you can also use journaling to write about positive emotions. If you journal whenever you are feeling a happy emotion, you can start to notice the prevalence of happiness and joy in your life.
If you want to take your journaling practice a step further, you could reflect on the ways in which you yourself have cultivated happiness and joy. For example, if you had a productive family therapy session that helped resolve a conflict, acknowledge your courage in your journal for participating openly and working toward better family dynamics.
Keep in mind that journaling doesn’t have to include hand-writing paragraphs of complete sentences. Perhaps you jot down bullet points in a small notebook you keep on you, or maybe you record your entries on your phone or computer. Find what works and go with that.
Practicing mindfulness
Higher levels of mindfulness have been linked to lower levels of rumination, which is the tendency to focus excessively on perceived personal shortcomings or unfortunate experiences (closely linked to pessimism).
Writing in a journal is one way of practicing mindfulness, which is the process of grounding yourself in the present moment and observing what is going on in your mind and body without judgment. Many ReachLink therapists incorporate mindfulness techniques into their sessions to help clients develop greater awareness and presence.
Cultivate optimism in therapy
Sometimes, methods of building optimism can seem easier said than done. Particularly with shifting explanatory styles, you may be so used to thinking about yourself and the world with one type of thought pattern, and consistently reframing your thoughts to promote more optimistic thinking can be a challenging long-term endeavor.
It might help to talk to a professional counselor to find additional support in developing an optimistic mindset. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a form of mental health treatment that focuses explicitly on changing thought patterns and habits, and you do not need to have a diagnosed mental illness to reap the benefits of such treatment.
The benefits of telehealth therapy
If you have a more pessimistic outlook on life, it may be challenging to open up to a therapist if you are skeptical about their ability to help you. In these situations, telehealth therapy can be an excellent option. Available through platforms like ReachLink, telehealth therapy can be accessed from anywhere you have an internet connection, including the safe space of your own home, where you may feel more comfortable being vulnerable and expressing yourself freely. This convenience can lower barriers to seeking help and allow for consistent engagement with therapeutic practices aimed at building optimism. Over time, telehealth sessions can provide you with the tools and support necessary to shift your mindset toward hopefulness and resilience.
In summary, thinking like an optimist involves consciously adopting a positive explanatory style, practicing gratitude, journaling, and cultivating mindfulness. While naturally optimistic tendencies can vary from person to person, these skills are learnable and can significantly enhance your mental health and overall well-being. If you find it difficult to make these changes on your own, professional support—especially through accessible telehealth services—can guide and sustain your growth.
Remember, optimism is not about ignoring challenges but about approaching life’s uncertainties with a mindset that fosters growth and possibility. By intentionally training your thoughts and emotions, you can create a more hopeful future for yourself.
